Carlina (Lina) Patuwo

Creative Job Search Article

2007-12-02T04:00:00.000-08:00

Dress and Grooming for Job Success

Many of us object to being judged for employment based on how we look. We prefer to be hired because of our skills and abilities, not because of our dress and grooming. But like it or not, appearance is important.

Employers hire people they believe will "fit" into their organization. Skills, experience and qualifications are important, but so are dress and grooming. Your appearance expresses motivation and professionalism. Dress as though you want the job, as though you already have the job. A visit to the company may help you decide the appropriate clothing to select for your interview. A good standard is to dress a step above how the best-dressed person dresses for a similar job. When in doubt, err on the conservative side.

Your appearance is a statement of who you are. Your clothing and grooming should create the image that will help you get the job offer.

First Impressions

Most of us have heard the expression, "A picture is worth a thousand words." Remember this when preparing to meet with a prospective employer. The picture you create will greatly influence your chances of being hired. Most employers form a first impression during the first seven seconds of a meeting. Not much is said in this short time; early judgment is based strictly on appearance. Furthermore, studies reveal that employers consistently ask the question, "Does the individual look right for the job?"

Clothing

There are no absolute rules regarding dress. Your selection will vary based on your occupation, location and preference. A business suit for a construction job or overalls for an office job would not be appropriate dress. The goal is to look the part, to have your appearance be consistent with your occupation. Neat, clean work clothes would be suitable for assembly, production or warehouse positions. Sales and office positions require business clothes. A conservative suit would be the recommended style for professional and managerial positions.

Common sense and good taste are the best guides in selecting clothing for the interview. Avoid faddish styles and loud colors. Jewelry should be conservative and kept to a minimum. Clothing should fit comfortably. A basic rule is to dress one step above what you would wear on the job. You want the employer to focus on your skills, not your clothes. The clothes you wear affect all your attitude and confidence levels. When people take the time to dress for success, they tend to feel good about themselves. Image alone will not win the job offer, but it will go a long way in building respect.

Grooming

Personal grooming is just as important as what you wear. You may select the right clothes, but neglecting personal hygiene can ruin the image you wish to present. Review the following grooming checklist before meeting with an employer.

ITEM

1. Hair
2. Facial Hair (men only)
3. Fingernails
4. Teeth
5. Breath
6. Body
7. Make-up (women only)
8. Perfumes/Colognes/After-Shave

GROOMING

1. Clean, trimmed and neatly combed or arranged.
2. Freshly shaved; mustache or beard neatly trimmed.
3. Neat, clean and trimmed.
4. Brushed and fresh breath.
5. Beware of foods which may leave breath odor. Beware of tobacco, alcohol and coffee odor. Use a breath mint if needed.
6. Freshly bathed/showered. Use deodorant.
7. Use sparingly and be natural looking.
8. Use sparingly or none at all. Your scent should not linger after you leave.

Goals of Appropriate Dress and Grooming

The primary goal is to feel good about the way you look and project a positive image. When you feel good about yourself, you naturally convey confidence and a positive attitude. These nonverbal messages are as important in the interview as the verbal skills you use in selling your qualifications. Persistence and follow-up are the keys to a successful job search. If you are serious about employment, plan your follow-up. There is no such thing as a wasted effort, and the only dead lead is the one you chose to kill. Situations change and the employer who is not hiring today may be looking for someone with your qualifications in the future.

Quotes About Gratitude (2 Dec 07)

2007-12-02T03:54:00.000-08:00

Saying thank you is more than good manners. It is good spirituality.
...Alfred Painter

Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.
...Henry Ward Beecher

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.
...Buddha

To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.
...Albert Schweitzer

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person.
Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
...Albert Schweitzer

Bisakah kita ?

2007-11-20T10:01:00.001-08:00

Banyak hal yang dapat kita lakukan di dunia ini

Mulai dari rumah kita sendiri, keluarga kita, orang tua kita, saudara-saudara kita,
Kemudian di tempat kerja kita , teman-teman kita, dan masyarakat sekitar kita
Lakukan apa saja, mulai dari kecil sampai ke hal-hal yang besar
Lakukan semuanya tampa pamrih dan dengan penuh suka cita
Lakukan mulai dari sekarang ...

Artinya kita harus berbuat baik bagi sesama ? iya
Tetapi, berbuat baik, gampang sekali diucapkan, tetapi sepertinya sulit dilakukan

Artinya kita harus membutuhkan dana / uang untuk membantu orang lain ? tidak
Beramal, bagi mereka yang mampu, gampang dilakukan tetapi diragukan ketulusannya
Beramal, bagi mereka yang kurang / tidak mampu, tidak dengan uang tetapi dengan tenaga

Tetapi, apa yang kita peroleh dari berbuat baik itu ?
Jangan pernah memikirkan apa imbalan kita dalam berbuat baik
Jangan pernah menghitung hasil perbuatan baik kita
Jangan pernah bertanya untuk apa kita berbuat baik

Mengisi kekosongan jiwa jauh lebih baik daripada mengkosongkan isi jiwa itu sendiri
Semakin banyak yang kita tahu, semakin kita tidak mengetahui apa-apa
Semakin banyak yang kita punya, semakin sedikit yang ada didiri kita

Memang banyak hal yang dapat kita lakukan, bukan hanya ingin tetapi juga MAU
KeMAUan berbuat sesuatu akan membuahkan benih-benih hasil yang luar biasa
Jadilah orang yang berkeMAUan
Orang yang berkeMAUan untuk:
Kerja keras melawan kemalasan
Kerja keras melawan keegoisan
Kerja keras melawan hawa nafsu
Kerja keras melawan kesombongan

Today's Quote

2007-11-20T08:48:00.000-08:00

There is more to life than increasing its speed.
-Gandhi (submitted by ystonehiker)

Article

2007-11-20T08:34:00.000-08:00

Increasing Your Value
By: Brian Tracy

Your goal is to organize your life in such a way that you enjoy a good income, a high standard of living, and that you are the master of your economic destiny rather than a victim of changing economic times.

Contribution is the Key
Your job is an opportunity to contribute a value to your company in excess of your cost. In its simplest terms, your job is as secure as your ability to render value in excess of what it costs to keep you on the payroll. If you want to earn more money at your current job, you have to increase your value, your contribution to the enterprise.

Add Value Every Day
If you want to get a new job, you have to find a way to contribute value to that enterprise. If you want any kind of job security, you must continually work at maintaining and increasing your value in the competitive marketplace.

And here's a key point. Your education, knowledge, skills and experience all are investments in your ability to contribute a value for which you can be paid. But they are like any other investments. They are highly speculative.

Knowledge and Education Are Sunk Costs
Once you have learned a subject or developed a skill, it is a sunk cost. It is time and money spent that you cannot get back. No employer in the marketplace has any obligation to pay you for it, unless he can use your skill to produce a product or service that people are ready to buy, today.

Prepare For Your Next Job
Whatever job you are doing, you should be preparing for your next job. And the key question is always: Where are the customers? Which businesses and industries are growing in this economy, and which ones are declining?

Where is the Future?
I continually meet people who ask me how they can increase their income when their entire industry is shrinking. I tell them that there are jobs with futures and there are jobs without futures, and they need to get into a field that is expanding, not contracting.

Never Be Without A Job
There are three forms of unemployment in America: voluntary, involuntary, and frictional. Voluntary employment exists when a person decides not to work for a certain period of time, or not to accept a particular type of job, hoping that something better will come along. Involuntary unemployment exists when a person is willing and able to work but cannot find a job anywhere. Frictional unemployment is the natural level; this includes the approximately 4 or 5 percent of the working population who are between jobs at any given time.

Three Keys to Lifelong Employment
However, there are always jobs for the creative minority. You never have to be unemployed if you will do one of three things: change the work that you are offering to do, change the place where you are offering to work, or change the amount that you are asking for your services. You should consider one or more of these three strategies whenever you are dissatisfied with your current work situation.

Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action. First, look around you at your current job and find ways to create added value every day. There's always something more you can do. Second, identify the kind of work you want to be doing in the future and then make a plan to develop the knowledge and skills you will require to do it well.

Article

2007-11-17T07:57:00.000-08:00

PREPARATION/TRAINING

Make the most of every opportunity to train, teach and improve your players and team. Practice under pressure situations and you will perform well when it truly counts.
Never panic. Face adversity with confidence knowing you have prepared.
You have to plan and prepare to guard against distractions.
Physical conditioning in the spring always becomes a determining factor at some point during the fall season.
I know what it feels like to be booed by 80,000 and have a standing ovation by the same 80,000 in the same day.
So that is a situation I think the Lord put me in at that part of my life because He knew I was going to be a coach.
He knew I needed that grooming

These quotes are excerpted from Todd Dodge Lessons from Sports Excerpt booklet.

Humor

2007-11-17T03:19:00.000-08:00

Romantisme Sudah Mati
oleh Anita Toh
Reader's Digest Indonesia November 2007

Tunangan saya bukanlah seorang yang romantis.
Jadi waktu dia mengungkapkan keinginan untuk menuliskan nama dan tanggal perkawinan kami di balik cincin kawin, saya merasa tersentuh.
"Wah, romantis sekali," ujar saya dengan tersipu.
"Romantisme tidak ada hubungannya dengan ini," ujarnya. "Saya tidak ingin terkena masalah karena melupakan hari ulang tahun perkawinan kita nantinya."

Renungan

2007-11-12T00:35:00.000-08:00

Orang mulia senang dengan ini:

'Hiduplah seperti seorang anak, maka hidupmu akan tenang..
hiduplah seperti seekor burung, maka hidupmu akan bernyanyi meski tidak memintal benang..'

Hidupmu seperti apa sekarang?

Daily Health Wisdom (1)

2007-11-12T00:16:00.000-08:00

Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.--Douglas Adams

Relationship Tip of The Day (1)

2007-11-12T00:15:00.000-08:00

Be happy
by Hale Dwoskin, Sedona.com

If you are currently in a situation at work or at home where you feel unappreciated, realize that if things continue this way, your job or personal relationships will likely suffer. However, the following steps will help you gain the acknowledgement you need and deserve to be happy.

1. Talk about your feelings. The first step is to let your supervisor, spouse, etc., know that you need to feel more appreciated. Don't accuse them, but do be direct and firm in what you need.

2. Ask for what you want. Sometimes people don't know just how to make you feel appreciated, so tell them. This could be, "I'd like to schedule a monthly sit-down to discuss my work performance," or "I need you to say 'thank you' when I cook dinner every night."

3. Listen to, and acknowledge, the other person. Allow the person to express how they feel about what you've said, and listen to their viewpoints. Then, give them time to make the changes you've requested. When they do show their appreciation, make sure you acknowledge their efforts to do so in return.

Article

2007-11-12T00:10:00.000-08:00

Do You Mind Your Mind ?
By Gamy Rachel

Can I ask you a question? If one day you need to hire a programmer to work for you to program all the software in your company, what kind of software programs would you want this programmer to create and put in for you?

Do you think it will vastly affect your company’s business if he is to create junks to put into your computer system, which your company’s life line depends on it? The answer is obvious isn’t it? You would want the programmer to create the best system that will work for you is that right? I know I would, and I will make every effort to ensure that it is so. I would not want anybody to put in programs and software that will be detrimental to my whole computer system.

I would relate this to our Brains, Minds and Thoughts. The commonly used term for computer is GI GO – Garbage In Garbage Out. I would say that this should also be used for our Minds and our Thoughts. As these saying goes

“Nothing is either good or bad but thinking make it so” –Shakespeare

“The empires of the futures are the empires of the mind” -Winston Churchill

“Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body” -Joseph Addison

Every thing begins with A Thought, the computer you are seeing right now began with a thought. The light bulb invented by Thomas Edison, began with a thought and so is the Wright Brothers who saw the plane flying way before it has flown, it all began with A THOUGHT. First we have to start with A THOUGHT, next comes VISION, then comes PLANNING and finally – TAKE ACTION = POSITIVE RESULTS.

When I first wanted to have a blog that focus on Mind Development, Self Help, Brain Wave Technology, Motivational and Inspirational topics, I began with A Thought in my mind. My thoughts has now become a reality. I now have two blogs. Mind Think Success and Make A Living Honestly.

If you look back at the careers of successful people, like Bob Proctor, Anthony Robins, Joe Vitale, Randy Gage, Jack Canfield just to name a few, you will find that almost every one of them first visualized in their minds what they wanted long before they actually achieved success.

Be careful what you put in your mind, when you dwell on certain things long enough over and over again until it set in your sub-conscious mind and set it to auto-pilot, it will manifest eventually. So I would advise you only dwell on good stuffs.

How do we do that? You know the minute we wake up each day, we are being bombarded by all the bad news, negative things and nonsense, it just come to us from all directions. We really have enough of these bad news daily, and we don’t have to help to add in more ourselves, it is enough supply for our entire life.

But what we don’t have enough of are positive energy, good news, positive news, positive things that will lift up our spirit, motivational things that will bring us up rather then pull us down.
Why? It’s because it is natural that human beings are easily swayed towards negative.
Have you come across a new born baby that just come out from the mother’s womb laughing heartily? like “Haaaaaaaaaa” to announce to the world he or she has arrived? What do you hear? it’s always a big crying baby’s voice that sounds like this ”Waaaaawww…..” didn’t I tell you, it is so easy to be negative? :) So to feed our minds with positive thoughts, it does take some effort.

“If you don’t invest in you, why should anyone else?” - Randy Gage

Invest in You, because You are the reason the birds are singing, You are the reason the sky is brighter, You are the reason there will be more good news. So start investing in You.

My Best To You & Your Best Is Yet TO Be
Gamy Rachel

Author's Bio
Gamy Rachel has obtained I.T.E.C (UK) Diploma in Diploma in Anatomy Physiology and Diploma in Aromatherapy. Also a home based business entrepreneur. You can find information on brainwave, visualization, self-help and more.

Do you mind ?
Cheers, Lina

STRESS RELIEVER 1-16

2007-11-12T00:04:00.001-08:00

Stress Reliever # 1 Wife: You always carry my photo in your handbag to the office. Why? Hubby: When there is a problem, no matter how impossible, I look at your picture and the problem disappears. Wife: You see, how miraculous and powerful I am for you? Hubby: Yes, I see your picture and say to myself, "What other problem can there be greater than this one?"
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Stress Reliever # 2 Girl: When we get married, I want to share all your worries, troubles and lighten your burden. Boy: It's very kind of you, darling, But I don't have any worries or troubles. Girl: Well that's because we aren't married yet.
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Stress Reliever # 3 Son: Mom, when I was on the bus with Dad this morning, he told me to give up my seat to a lady. Mom: Well, you have done the right thing. Son: But mum, I was sitting on daddy's lap.
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Stress Reliever # 4 Wife to husband: "What's your excuse for coming home at this time of the night?" Husband to wife: "Golfing with friends, my dear." Wife to husband: "What? At 2 am?" Husband to wife: "Yes, We used night clubs."
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Stress Reliever # 5 A newly married man asked his wife, "Would you have married me if my father hadn't left me a fortune?"
"Honey," the woman replied sweetly, "I'd have married you NO MATTER WHO LEFT YOU A FORTUNE"
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Stress Reliever # 6 Father to son after exam: "let me see your report card." Son: "My friend just borrowed it. He wants to scare his parents."
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Stress Reliever # 7 "How was your blind date?" a college student asked her roommate. "Terrible!" the roommate answered. "He showed up in his 1932 Rolls Royce.
" Wow! That's a very expensive car. What 's so bad about that?" "He was the original owner."
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Stress Reliever # 9 A teacher asked her class for sentences using the word "beans"..
"My father grows beans," said one student.
"My father cooks beans," said another.
Then little Johnny spoke up: "We are all human beans."
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Stress Reliever # 10 Interviewer to Millionaire: To whom do you owe your success as a millionaire?" Millionaire: "I owe everything to my wife." Interviewer: "Wow, she must be some woman. What were you before you married her?" Millionaire: "A Billionaire"
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Stress Reliever # 11 Girl to her boyfriend: One kiss and I'll be yours forever.
The guy replies: Thanks for the warning.
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Stress Reliever # 12 A husband was asked: "Do you talk to your wife after sex?" He replied: "Depends, if I can find a phone."
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Stress Reliever # 13 Man to wife on wedding night: "Are you sure I'm the first man you are sleeping with?"
Wife replied: "Of course honey, I stayed awake with all the others!"
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Stress Reliever # 14 "Why did they stop printing PAMELA ANDERSON stamps in the U.S.?" Answer: "Because people started licking the wrong side."
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Stress Reliever # 15 A wife asked her husband: "What do you like most in me my pretty face or my sexy body?"
He looked at her from head to toe and replied: "I like your sense of humour."
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Stress Reliever # 16 Doctor to his lady patient: "You look terribly weak and exhausted! Are you having your meals three times a day as I have advised?" Lady replied: "Doctor, I thought you said three males a day."

Article

2007-11-11T23:49:00.000-08:00

HAVING FAITH AND TRUST WILL LEAD TO SUCCESS
by Mark Victor Hansen

When you know what you want and have done everything you can, the only thing you can do is have faith and trust that Infinite Intelligence is working to make your dreams a reality. Sometimes it takes a while. We have to know our dreams were ours the minute we decided we wanted them. They are manifesting themselves. We just need to be patient.

Is being patient an easy task? Not always. Sometimes it can even be depressing waiting for what we want to show up in physical form. But we have to realize if we weren’t supposed to have what we dream about then we would never have had the dream. We just need to believe in our dreams and ourselves and allow the Universe to work in its own divine time. You need dedication combined with perspiration moving toward a destination to get your ideal realization.

Article

2007-11-11T23:45:00.000-08:00

Developing A Great Character
By: Brian Tracy

Being the Best In Every AreaWhat is character?
Your character is the degree to which you live your life consistent with high, life-enhancing values. A person who lacks character is one who compromises on higher order values in favor of lower order expedience, or who has no values at all. Your adherence to what you believe to be right and true is the real measure of the person you have become to this moment.

Define What "Excellence" Means to You
Let us say that one of your values is "excellence." Your definition of excellence could be, "Excellence means that I set the highest standards for myself in everything I do. I do my very best in every situation and under all circumstances. I constantly strive to be better in my work, and as a person in my relationships. I recognize that excellence is a life-long journey and I work every day to become better and better in everything I do."

Organize Your Actions
With a definition like this, you have a clear organizing principle for your actions. You have set a standard by which you can evaluate your behavior. You have created a framework within which you can make decisions. You have a measuring rod against which you can compare yourself in everything you do. You can continually grade your activities in terms of "more" or "less." You have a clear target to aim at and organize your work around.

Decide What You Want for Your Family
It's the same with each of your other values. If your value is your family, you could define this as, "The needs of my family take precedence over all other concerns. Whenever I have to choose between the happiness, health and well being of a member of my family, and any other interest, my family will always come first."

Keep Focused
From that moment onward, it becomes easier for you to choose. Your family comes first. Until you have fully satisfied the needs of your family, no other time requirement will side track you into a lower value activity.

Shape Your Own Character
The wonderful thing about values clarification is that it enables you to take charge of developing and shaping your own character. When your values and goals, your inner life and your outer life, are in complete alignment, you feel terrific about yourself. You enjoy high self-esteem. Your self-confidence soars. When you achieve complete congruence between your values and your goals, like a hand in a glove, you feel strong, happy, healthy and fully integrated as a person. You develop a kind of courage that makes you completely unafraid to make decisions and take action. Your whole life improves when you begin living your life by the values that you most admire.

Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do to put this ideas into action immediately.

First, create a clear, written description of your values and what they mean to you. From that point on, resolve to live consistent with your own definition.

Second, discipline yourself to live in complete alignment with the values, virtues and qualities that are most important to you. This is the key to character.

Power Network by Brian Tracy

2007-11-11T23:35:00.000-08:00

"Increase Your Contacts, Expand Your Influence and Build Your Business Faster!"

You've heard the saying... "it's not WHAT you know, but WHO you know"... how many times has this proved to be true?

Article

2007-11-11T21:19:00.000-08:00

A KEY TO MOTIVATION
by Brian Tracy

KEEP PEOPLE IN THE KNOW:
Your goal is to become a transformational leader, the kind of person that motivates and inspires people to perform at levels far beyond anything that they had previously thought possible. Transformational leaders empower others by keeping them "in the know," by keeping them fully informed on everything that affects their jobs. People want and need to feel that they are insiders,” that they are aware of everything that is going on. There is nothing so demoralizing to a staff member than to be kept in the dark about their work and what is going on in the company.

GIVE REGULAR FEEDBACK:
One empowering behavior practiced by transformational leaders is regular feedback on performance and results. People need to know how they're doing so they can improve if performance is below standards and so that they can be proud of their successes. The more feedback you give to people, the better it is, as long as the feedback is objective and not critical. My friend, Ken Blanchard, says that, "Positive feedback is the breakfast of champions."

PRAISE GENEROUSLY:
Be generous with your praise and encouragement. Remember, people are the only asset that can be made to appreciate in value by giving them warmth, respect, approval and by creating a climate of positive expectations.

SET HIGH STANDARDS FOR YOURSELF:
What companies and countries and institutions need today are courageous visionary leaders who are committed to creating an exciting future for themselves and others. You have within yourself the ability to evolve and grow as a leader and to make a real difference in the world around you. And the one thing you can know for sure about yourself is that, no matter what you've accomplished up to now, there is far more that you can do. As you practice the behaviors of effective leaders, you will grow more and more toward the realization of your full potential. It's completely up to you.

ACTION EXERCISES:
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action in your work.
First, hold regular meetings with your staff and tell them everything that is going on. Invite their comments, questions and concerns. Make everybody feel as if he or she was an insider in the organization.
Second, continually look for opportunities to give positive feedback, praise and encouragement. People need praise and encouragement like roses need rain and sunshine. Take very opportunity to make people feel better about themselves and their work.

Article

2007-11-11T20:36:00.000-08:00

Keeping Yourself Positive
By: Brian Tracy

The most important thing you do for your success is to take control of the suggestive elements in your environment. Be sure that what you are seeing and listening to is consistent with the goals you want to achieve.

Listen Your Way to Success
Listen to educational audio programs in your car. The average person drives 12,000 to 25,000 miles per year which works out to between 500 and 1,000 hours per year that the average person spends in his or her car. You can become an expert in your field by simply listening to educational audio programs as you drive from place to place.

Take Courses in Your Field
Attend seminars given by experts in your field. Take additional courses and learn everything you possibly can. Learn from the experts. Ask them questions, write them letters, read their books, read their articles and listen to people with proven track records in the area in which you want to be successful.

Get Around the Right People
Associate only with positive, success-oriented people. Get around winners. As we say, fly with the eagles. You can't fly with the eagles if you keep scratching with the turkeys. Get away from the go-nowhere types and above all, get away from negative people. Get away from negative coworkers. If you've got a negative boss, seriously consider changing jobs. Associating on a regular basis with negative people is enough in itself to condemn you to a life of underachievement, frustration and failure. Associate only with positive people. Get around winners.

Visualize Your Goals
The last thing before you sleep and the first thing in the morning, think about and visualize your goals as realities. See your goal as though it already existed. Your subconscious mind is only activated by affirmations and pictures that are received in the present tense. See your goal vividly just before you go to sleep. See yourself performing at your best. See the situations that you're facing working out exactly the way you want them to.

Feed Yourself Mental Pictures
See yourself living the kind of life that you want to live. See yourself with the kind of relationships, the kind of health, the kind of car, the kind of home you really want. Visualize just before you fall asleep at night. The first thing you do when you get up in the morning is to feed yourself mental pictures. Those are the two times of the day when your subconscious mind is most receptive to new programming, when you fall asleep and when you wake up.

Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do, all day long, to keep your mind and emotions focused on your goals and financial success: First, listen to audio programs in your car and when you travel around. Continue feeding your mind with a stream of high-quality, educational, motivational material that moves you toward your goal. Second, resolve to associate with positive, optimistic people most of the time. Get around winners and get away from negative people who criticize, condemn and complain. This can change your life as much as any other factor.

Article

2007-10-08T11:08:00.000-07:00

Do You Mind Your Mind ?
By Gamy Rachel

Can I ask you a question? If one day you need to hire a programmer to work for you to program all the software in your company, what kind of software programs would you want this programmer to create and put in for you?

Do you think it will vastly affect your company’s business if he is to create junks to put into your computer system, which your company’s life line depends on it? The answer is obvious isn’t it? You would want the programmer to create the best system that will work for you is that right? I know I would, and I will make every effort to ensure that it is so. I would not want anybody to put in programs and software that will be detrimental to my whole computer system.

I would relate this to our Brains, Minds and Thoughts. The commonly used term for computer is GI GO – Garbage In Garbage Out. I would say that this should also be used for our Minds and our Thoughts. As these saying goes

“Nothing is either good or bad but thinking make it so” –Shakespeare
“The empires of the futures are the empires of the mind” -Winston Churchill
“Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body” -Joseph Addison

Every thing begins with A Thought, the computer you are seeing right now began with a thought. The light bulb invented by Thomas Edison, began with a thought and so is the Wright Brothers who saw the plane flying way before it has flown, it all began with A THOUGHT. First we have to start with A THOUGHT, next comes VISION, then comes PLANNING and finally – TAKE ACTION = POSITIVE RESULTS.

When I first wanted to have a blog that focus on Mind Development, Self Help, Brain Wave Technology, Motivational and Inspirational topics, I began with A Thought in my mind. My thoughts has now become a reality. I now have two blogs.Mind Think Success and Make A Living Honestly.

If you look back at the careers of successful people, like Bob Proctor, Anthony Robins, Joe Vitale, Randy Gage, Jack Canfield just to name a few, you will find that almost every one of them first visualized in their minds what they wanted long before they actually achieved success.

Be careful what you put in your mind, when you dwell on certain things long enough over and over again until it set in your sub-conscious mind and set it to auto-pilot, it will manifest eventually. So I would advise you only dwell on good stuffs.

How do we do that? You know the minute we wake up each day, we are being bombarded by all the bad news, negative things and nonsense, it just come to us from all directions. We really have enough of these bad news daily, and we don’t have to help to add in more ourselves, it is enough supply for our entire life.

But what we don’t have enough of are positive energy, good news, positive news, positive things that will lift up our spirit, motivational things that will bring us up rather then pull us down.
Why? It’s because it is natural that human beings are easily swayed towards negative.

Have you come across a new born baby that just come out from the mother’s womb laughing heartily? like “Haaaaaaaaaa” to announce to the world he or she has arrived? What do you hear? it’s always a big crying baby’s voice that sounds like this ”Waaaaawww…..” didn’t I tell you, it is so easy to be negative? :) So to feed our minds with positive thoughts, it does take some effort.

“If you don’t invest in you, why should anyone else?” - Randy Gage

Invest in You, because You are the reason the birds are singing, You are the reason the sky is brighter, You are the reason there will be more good news. So start investing in You.

My Best To You & Your Best Is Yet TO Be
Gamy Rachel

Author's Bio
Gamy Rachel has obtained I.T.E.C (UK) Diploma in Diploma in Anatomy Physiology and Diploma in Aromatherapy. Also a home based business entrepreneur. You can find information on brainwave, visualization, self-help and more.

2007-10-04T11:37:00.000-07:00

Today's Inspiration Words

I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.
-Mother Teresa

Article

2007-10-04T10:48:00.000-07:00

BE STREET SMART EVERY DAY
by Tony Alessandra

Because street smarts are so important to every part of your life, here is a quick review of the major elements that go into street smarts.

Print this list out and keep it with you, for a regular reminder to be street smart every day.

I. Heightened Awareness
A. Trust your intuition
B. Develop perceptiveness and ability to anticipate
C. Size up people quickly and accurately
D. See the big picture

II. Confidence
A. Fake it till you make it
B. Use chutzpa when necessary
C. Believe in yourself - Be confident

III. Healthy Skepticism
A. Don't believe everything you see and hear
B. Be hard to take advantage of
C. Use your "mental categories" and generalizations to keep you on guard
D. Give people the time and rope to either hang themselves or prove their integrity/sincerity

IV. Resourcefulness
A. Think quickly on your feet
B. Be persistent
C. Be prepared
D. Be flexible
E. Change your surroundings or adapt
F. Surround yourself with experts & contacts

V. Risk-taking
A. Be willing to take risks
B. Minimize the possible down side
C. Cut your losses and get out if you're wrong
D. Learn by your mistakes

Here's to more personal insight,
Tony Alessandra
______________________________________________________________
Dr. Tony Alessandra helps companies build customers, relationships, and the bottom-line. Tony has a street-wise, college-smart perspective on business, having fought his way out of NYC to eventually realizing success as a graduate professor of marketing, entrepreneur, business author, and consultant. Dr. Alessandra earned his MBA from the University of Connecticut---and his PhD in marketing from Georgia State University. He was inducted into the Speakers Hall of Fame in 1985.

2007-10-02T11:32:00.000-07:00

Daily Inspiration Quotes (2)

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. -Suzanne Somers
I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all. -Laura Ingalls Wilder
Good people are good because they've come to wisdom through failure. We get very little wisdom from success, you know. -William Saroyan
What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be. -Ellen Burstyn
Enthusiasm is a kind of faith that has been set on fire. -George Matthew Adams
I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure—try to please everybody. -Herbert Bayard Swope

2007-10-02T10:47:00.000-07:00

Don't Adopt Wrong Views

Ashamed of what's not shameful,
not ashamed of what is,
beings adopting wrong views
go to a bad destination.

Seeing danger where there is none,
and no danger where there is,
beings adopting wrong views,
go to a bad destination.

-Dhammapada

2007-10-02T10:45:00.000-07:00

Flowers in the Sky

A hundred thousand worlds are flowers in the sky,
a single mind and body is moonlight in the water;
once the cunning ends and information stops,
at that moment there is no place for thought.

-Han-Shan Te-Ch'ing in The Clouds Should Know Me By Now

TODAY'S QUOTE

2007-10-02T08:23:00.000-07:00

If you want to know the past, to know what has caused you, look at yourself in the present, for that is the past’s effect.

If you want to know your future, then look at yourself in the present, for that is the cause of the future.

-Majjhima Nikaya

2007-10-01T12:32:00.000-07:00

Vitamins for the Mind by Jim Rohn

DESIRE/MOTIVATION

Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a "must" and a "want."
The best motivation is self-motivation. The guy says, "I wish someone would come by and turn me on." What if they don't show up? You've got to have a better plan for your life.
When you know what you want, and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it.
Motivation alone is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot.
Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.

SKILLS/SALES

Don't wish it was easier; wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems; wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom.
You must either modify your dreams or magnify your skills.
You can cut down a tree with a hammer, but it takes about 30 days. If you trade the hammer for an ax, you can cut it down in about 30 minutes. The difference between 30 days and 30 minutes is skills.
The key to life is to become skillful enough to be able to do rewarding things.
Learn to hide your need and show your skill.
To succeed in sales, simply talk to lots of people every day. And here's what's exciting – there are lots of people!
Practice is just as valuable as a sale. The sale will make you a living; the skill will make you a fortune.
Selling is a person-to-person business. You cannot send the sales manual out to make the sale. Sales manuals have no legs and no voice.
In the sales profession the real work begins after the sale is made.
Sales people should take lessons from their kids. What does the word "no" mean to a child? Almost nothing.
Even if you are new in sales, you can make up in numbers what you lack in skills.

STEWARDSHIP

How much should you earn? As much as you possibly can. It doesn't matter whether you earn $10,000 a year or $100,000 a year as long as you've done the best you can.
The man says, "If I had a fortune, I'd take good care of it. But I only have a paycheck and I don't know where it all goes." Wouldn't you love to have him running your company?
If you wish to have power and influence over the many, be faithful (disciplined) when there are just a few. If you have a few employees, a few distributors, a few people, that's the time to stay in touch and be totally absorbed - when there is just a few.
Start from wherever you are and with whatever you've got.

2007-10-01T12:30:00.000-07:00

I Believe
by Brian Tracy

I believe every person has within themselves inexhaustible reserves of potential they have never even come close to realizing.

I believe each person has far more intelligence than they have ever used.

I believe each person is more creative than he or she has ever imagined.

I believe the greatest achievements of your life lie ahead of you.

I believe the happiest moments of your life are yet to come.

I believe the greatest successes you will ever attain are still waiting for you on the road ahead.

And, I believe through learning and application of what you learn, you can solve any problem, overcome any obstacle and achieve any goal that you can set for yourself.

ARTICLE

2007-10-01T12:29:00.001-07:00

Three Keys to Greatness
by Jim Rohn

Several years ago I went into the studio and recorded a 56-minute video for teenagers called "Three Keys To Greatness." Although my focus was for teenagers, the principles I shared certainly apply to adults as well.

Recently I was asked to list these three things using one to two sentences for each. Now for your benefit here they are again.

1) Setting Goals. I call it the view of the future. Most people, including kids, will pay the price if they can see the promise of the future. So we need to help our kids see a well-defined future, so they will be motivated to pay the price today to attain the rewards of tomorrow. Goals help them do this.

2) Personal Development. Simply making consistent investments in our self-education and knowledge banks pays major dividends throughout our lives. I suggest having a minimum amount of time set aside for reading books, listening to audiocassettes, attending seminars, keeping a journal and spending time with other successful people. Charlie “Tremendous’ Jones says you will be in five years the sum total of the books you read and the people you are around.

3) Financial Planning. I call it the 70/30 plan. After receiving your paycheck or paying yourself, simply setting aside 10% for saving, 10% for investing and 10% for giving, and over time this will guarantee financial independence for a teenager.

If a young person, or for that matter an adult, focused on doing these three simple things over a long period of time I believe they will be assured success!

ARTICLE

2007-10-01T12:25:00.000-07:00

Four Words that Make Life Worthwhile
by Jim Rohn

Over the years as I've sought out ideas, principles and strategies to life's challenges, I've come across four simple words that can make living worthwhile.

First, life is worthwhile if you LEARN. What you don't know WILL hurt you. You have to have learning to exist, let alone succeed. Life is worthwhile if you learn from your own experiences - negative or positive. We learn to do it right by first sometimes doing it wrong. We call that a positive negative. We also learn from other people's experiences, both positive and negative. I've always said that it is too bad failures don't give seminars. Obviously, we don't want to pay them so they aren't usually touring around giving seminars. But that information would be very valuable – we would learn how someone who had it all then messed it up. Learning from other people's experiences and mistakes is valuable information because we can learn what not to do without the pain of having tried and failed ourselves.

We learn by what we see so pay attention. We learn by what we hear so be a good listener. Now I do suggest that you should be a selective listener, don't just let anybody dump into your mental factory. We learn from what we read so learn from every source; learn from lectures; learn from songs; learn from sermons; learn from conversations with people who care. Always keep learning.

Second, life is worthwhile if you TRY. You can't just learn; now you have to try something to see if you can do it. Try to make a difference, try to make some progress, try to learn a new skill, try to learn a new sport. It doesn't mean you can do everything, but there are a lot of things you can do, if you just try. Try your best. Give it every effort. Why not go all out?

Third, life is worthwhile if you STAY. You have to stay from spring until harvest. If you have signed up for the day or for the game or for the project - see it through. Sometimes calamity comes and then it is worth wrapping it up. And that's the end, but just don't end in the middle. Maybe on the next project you pass, but on this one, if you signed up, see it through.

And lastly, life is worthwhile if you CARE. If you care at all you will get some results, if you care enough you can get incredible results. Care enough to make a difference. Care enough to turn somebody around. Care enough to start a new enterprise. Care enough to change it all. Care enough to be the highest producer. Care enough to set some records. Care enough to win.

Four powerful little words: learn, try, stay and care.
What difference can you make in your life today by putting these words to work?

HEAR THROUGH YOUR EYES ...

2007-10-01T12:23:00.000-07:00

Do you want to know what my body is? My body is the same as the whole earth.

Do you want to know what my mind is? My mind is the same as space itself.

Do you want to know what my vision is? I see there is nothing to see.

Do you want to know what I hear? I hear the unheard.Since I have been seeing and hearing, why then do I speak of the unheard? "If you listen with your ears, after all you cannot understand; when you hear through your eyes, only then will you know."

-Ssu-hsin

WISDOM WORDS

2007-10-01T12:15:00.000-07:00

All Is an Illusion

Empty and calm and devoid of self
Is the nature of all things.

No individual being
In reality exists.

There is no end or beginning,
Nor any middle course.

All is an illusion,
As in a vision or a dream.

All beings in the world
Are beyond the realm of words.

Their ultimate nature, pure and true,
Is like the infinity of space.

DAILY HEALTH WISDOM

2007-10-01T12:10:00.000-07:00

Joy is not in things; it is in us.
-Richard Wagner

Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

-Anne Frank

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.

-Thich Nhat Hanh

KESAN & PESAN : MOONCAKE CELEBRATION 2007 (1)

2007-10-01T11:56:00.000-07:00

Akhirnya datanglah waktu yang di tunggu-tunggu...

Kurang lebih 3 bulan, semua tenaga dikerahkan pada persiapan acara "Mooncake Celebration 2007", teman-teman di The Organizer dan Ikatan Koko Cici Jakarta yang pontang-panting menyelesaikan segala urusan administrasi, marketing, promosi dan penyebaran undangan, tanpa memikirkan rasa lelah, akhirnya menyelenggarakan acara "Mooncake Celebration 2007" dengan spektakuler. (Thanks guys .... excellent jobs ... ngak kapok kan diomelin saya melulu)

Undangan 350 orang tercapai. Para pejabat tinggi dan para petinggi paguyuban komunitas Tionghoa, tokoh agama Khong Hu Cu, Kristen dan Muslim (termasuk bapak Gus Dur), para sponsors, partners dan media partners yang membantu terselenggaranya acara ini, datang berpartisipasi.

Untuk lebih jelasnya, liputan detail akan di posting besok hari.....................

BUKA PUASA BERSAMA ANAK-ANAK GRIYA ASIH

2007-10-01T11:45:00.000-07:00

Tanggal 22 September 2007 jam 7.00 malam, saya dan teman-teman mengadakan buka puasa bersama dengan anak-anak Yayasan Griya Asih. Kebetulan teman saya berulang tahun, Reynol, berulang tahun yang juga sekaligus acara syukuran karena telah bergabung di Choice Management Consultants sebagai Marketing Communication Manager.

Buka puasa bersama-sama dengan anak-anak GA terasa berbeda karena kedatangan beberapa donatur baru yang khusus kami undang untuk melihat keadaan di GA sendiri. Micky AFI juga datang dan anak-anak senangnya bukan kepalang.

Nyanyi, ngeband, joget dan tentunya makan bersama dengan makan yang berlimpah ruah, membuat anak-anak kekenyangan. Tidak ada batasan lagi antara anak-anak dengan para "tamu".... senang banget melihat anak-anak begitu gembira .. mudah-mudahan acara seperti ini terus berlanjut.

Sayangnya, kegembiraan tidak bisa bertahan lama, karena Fatimah 'sakit'. Sepertinya sekarang sudah baikan (jangan suka ngelamun ya Fatimah).

Jam sudah menunjukkan pukul 22.45, semua rombongan akhirnya pulang kerumah masing-masing dengan membawa seberkas harapan dan cinta.......

Oh yeah, GA sedang berbenah diri... ngecet dan memberikan rumah sedang dilakukan..

Salam sayang buat kalian... tunggu kedatangan saya nanti..... tapi ingat..
Oh yeah, Desember kita outing lagi yah .... tapi dengan catatan .... be good

Lina Patuwo

ARTICLE

2007-09-12T11:16:00.000-07:00

Four Words that Make Life Worthwhile
by Jim Rohn

Over the years as I've sought out ideas, principles and strategies to life's challenges, I've come across four simple words that can make living worthwhile.

First, life is worthwhile if you LEARN. What you don't know WILL hurt you. You have to have learning to exist, let alone succeed. Life is worthwhile if you learn from your own experiences - negative or positive. We learn to do it right by first sometimes doing it wrong. We call that a positive negative. We also learn from other people's experiences, both positive and negative. I've always said that it is too bad failures don't give seminars. Obviously, we don't want to pay them so they aren´t usually touring around giving seminars. But that information would be very valuable – we would learn how someone who had it all then messed it up. Learning from other people's experiences and mistakes is valuable information because we can learn what not to do without the pain of having tried and failed ourselves.

We learn by what we see so pay attention. We learn by what we hear so be a good listener. Now I do suggest that you should be a selective listener, don't just let anybody dump into your mental factory. We learn from what we read so learn from every source; learn from lectures; learn from songs; learn from sermons; learn from conversations with people who care. Always keep learning.

Second, life is worthwhile if you TRY. You can't just learn; now you have to try something to see if you can do it. Try to make a difference, try to make some progress, try to learn a new skill, try to learn a new sport. It doesn't mean you can do everything, but there are a lot of things you can do, if you just try. Try your best. Give it every effort. Why not go all out?

Third, life is worthwhile if you STAY. You have to stay from spring until harvest. If you have signed up for the day or for the game or for the project - see it through. Sometimes calamity comes and then it is worth wrapping it up. And that's the end, but just don't end in the middle. Maybe on the next project you pass, but on this one, if you signed up, see it through.

And lastly, life is worthwhile if you CARE. If you care at all you will get some results, if you care enough you can get incredible results. Care enough to make a difference. Care enough to turn somebody around. Care enough to start a new enterprise. Care enough to change it all. Care enough to be the highest producer. Care enough to set some records. Care enough to win.
Four powerful little words: learn, try, stay and care. What difference can you make in your life today by putting these words to work?

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn

GEMPA LAGI !!!

2007-09-12T08:23:00.000-07:00

Kebetulan saya baru saja pulang dan kebetulan sudah di Slipi and staff saya telp bilang mereka turun karena gempa keras banget ... dan aku liat di Metro TV kalau memang gempa di Bengkulu 7.9 SR dan berpotensial tsunami dan kebetulan saya baca di Yahoo news, katanya it’s ”small tsuname hits Indonesia after earthquake” dan ”Quake triggers tsunami in Indonesia”.. dll... Tapi setelah tunggu 2 ½ jam.. akhirnya berita dari BMG bahwa tidak akan terjadi tsunami. Lega deh rasanya. Tapi, membaca Detik.com, 7 orang meninggal dan 17 luka-luka.. Andalas Padang Mall rusak parah, Dept Store Ramayana ke bakar, pohon tumbang menimpah orang, orang sakit dikeluarkan dari rumah sakit, orang-orang berlarian ke luar .. perih banget ngebayanginnya...

Baru saja selesai makan dan duduk nonton TV sambil pindah2 channel TV, dan pas lagi nonton om Farhan di ANTV, jam 21.49 malam, tiba2 ada peringatan dini, katanya terjadi lagi gempa dengan kekuatan 6.6 SR jam 21.40 di Bengkulu juga...dan menurut BMG ada potensi tsunami mudah2an ini gempa yang terakhir.

Aduh, kapan dunia ini aman dan damai ya?

Mari kita berdoa semoga kita semua selamat …. salam malam

THE SEVEN C'S OF SUCCESS

2007-09-07T10:58:00.000-07:00

By Brian Tracy

Clarity - Eighty percent of success comes from being clear on who you are, what you believe in and what you want.
Competence - You can't climb to the next rung on the ladder until you are excellent at what you do now.
Constraints - Eighty percent of all obstacles to success come from within. Find out what is constraining in you or your company and deal with it,
Concentration - The ability to focus on one thing single-mindedly and see it through until it's done takes more character than anything else.
Creativity - Flood your life with ideas from many sources. Creativity needs to be exercised like a muscle, if you don't use it you'll lose it.
Courage - Most in demand and least in supply, courage is the willingness to do the things you know are right.
Continuous learning - Read, at the very least, one book a week on business to keep you miles ahead of the competition. And just as you eat and bathe, organize your time so you spend 30 minutes a day exploring e-mail, sending messages, going through web sites, because like exercise, it's the only way you can keep on top of technology. If you get away from it, you'll lose your edge.

Note:
Brian, after having studied top achievers and peak performers over the past 25 years, concluded that these unique men and women, have in most cases, mastered what he calls the Seven C´s of Success.

ARTICLE ...

2007-09-07T10:52:00.000-07:00

Ten Attitudes of Top-Achievers
by Brian Tracy

If you think the same way as the top achievers think, you can begin to get the same results they do. Here are ten psychological and practical ways to mirror the attitudes of top-achievers.

See yourself as a consultant rather than a salesperson. Believe that you are a problem-solver with regard to your product and how the client can best use it.
Become a doctor of selling. Act in the best interests of your “patients’ and have a high code of ethics.
See yourself as the president of your own sales corporation. Accept 100 percent responsibility for your results.
Commit yourself to being the best in your field. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning.
Be ambitious, hungry, and determined to use selling as a stepping-stone to the success you want in life.
Have integrity. Be honest with yourself and others.
Engage in thorough preparation prior to every call.
Be an excellent listener; be extremely customer-focused.
Have tremendous courage. Be willing to face your fears of rejection and failure, and overcome them.
Be highly persistent. Start your workday earlier, work harder, and stay longer.

To make these changes work you must walk, talk, and behave consistently with them every hour of every day.

Article : Ketawa Pangkal Sehat

2007-09-07T10:02:00.000-07:00

Masih ingat kan, posting artikel saya tentang Ketawa Itu Sehat beberapa waktu yang lalu ?

Nah, ada artikel yang mengambil hasil penelitian yang sama, yaitu dari Loma Lina University Medical Center, California tentang Ketawa. Berikut ini ceritanya".

"Tawa merangsang sistem kekebalan tubuh Anda" ungkapan Dan Gascon, presiden Humour for Your Health, Ltd. "Menurut studi belum lama ini, tawa merupakan satu-satunya cara alami bagi organ-organ dalam tubuh Anda untuk mendapatkan pijatan. Tawa juga merupakan elemen penting dalam proses pencernaan. Singkatnya, tubuh Anda membutuhkan tawa".

Bukan itu saja efek baik dari tawa. Menurut penelitian yang diadakan pada 1997 di Lomma Lina University Medical Center, California, humor menurunkan kadar hormon stres, seperti adrenalin, hingga bisa menurunkan tkanan darah dan meningkatkan kekebalan tubuh dengan meningkatkan kadar antibodi, seperti sel-sel T.

Penelitian di Stanford University juga menambahkan bahwa lewat ketawa, Anda akan lebih siaga, bisa melatih otot-otot tibuh, dan memacu sirkulasi darah. Bahkan, jika Anda ketawa sebanyak 100 kali per hari, efek yang ditimbulkan pada pernapasan jantung sama dengan efek dari mengayuh sepeda stasioner selama 15 menit.

Jadi, tunggu apa lagi? Segera tingkatkan kemampuan Anda melawak:

saat berbaring di ranjang, coba ajak pasangan anda bernyanyi bersama
ganti voice mail di telepon selular anda dengan pesan yang kocak
saat bermain dengan anak, gelitik bagian tubuhnya yang sensitif
gunakan nada dering telepon selular yang kocak
tempelkan berbagai gambar, kartun atau foto locu di dekat monitor komputer anda di kantor maupun dirumah
kirimkan kartu ucapan seru dan lucu ke orang-orang yang anda kasihi
tontonlah film komedi klasik bersama teman-teman untuk menambah seru suasana acara kumpul-kumpul.

Oleh: Stephanie Osfield, WeighWatchers.ca (Reader's Digest Indonesia, 10/2006)

TAHUKAH ANDA ............

2007-08-26T10:21:00.000-07:00

Minum air yang banyak.

Segelas air H2O membantu menetralisir sisa makanan yang dapat merusak email gigi kita.

Air bertindak sebagai pencuci mulut yang alami.

Lebih penting lagi minum air yang banyak setelah makan keripik kentang, karena garam pada kentang akan memecah diri menjadi gula dan karena keripik kentang menempel pada gigi kita, resiko kerusakan gigi makin tinggi.

Selamatkan gigi anda dengan minum air yang banyak.

TIME MANAGEMENT (TRIK)

2007-08-26T10:06:00.000-07:00

Rencana berantakan, pekerjaan kalang kabut dan klien uring-uringan ?

Stop, atur dulu diri kita sendiri. Baru kemudian melangkah dengan penuh percaya diri.

Kunci utama agar semuanya berjalan mulus adalah:

Rencanakan langkah dengan matang. Apapun yang akan kita lakukan, rencanakan semuanya dengan matang. Begitu tiba pada hari H kita tinggal menjalaninya dengan perubahan-perubahan yang telah kita antisipasi sebelumnya.

Sesuai prioritas. Mungkin saja di suatu saat kita dihadapkan pada 2 atau 3 situasi yang berbarengan datangnya. Tak usah bingung. Kita perlu memprioritaskan mana yang harus kita tangani terlebih dahulu. Dengan cara ini pikiran kita juga bisa terfokus pada hal-hal yang paling penting.

Buatlah jadwal. Kedengarannya terlalu sok sibuk, namun jadwal memang kita perlukan agar pekerjaan kita lebih rapi dan tertangani dengan sempurna. Jangan lupa juga membuat antisipasi jika yang terjadi di lapangan tak sesuai dengan jadwal kita.

Delegasikan. Mendelegasikan tugas adalah cara yang paling bijaksana untuk memperoleh kesempurnaan dalam langkah kita. Beri kepercayaan pada bawahan kita walaupun kita adalah tipe yang tidak mudah untuk memberikan kepercayaan kepada orang lain, namun jika kita telah membekalinya dengan pengetahuan-pengetahuan yang berhubungan dengan pekerjaaannya, hal ini akan meringankan tugas kita.

Bangun lebih pagi. Ada saatnya bangun sedikit lebih pagi untuk menyelesaikan tugas-tugas yang masih tersisa bisa membuat tugas kita seharian bisa lebih ringan. Apalagi, kalau jadwal tidur kita cukup, artinya kita juga tidak tidur kelewat malam,

Coret yang kurang perlu. Ada situasi dimana kita terlalu banyak tugas. Periksa lagi dengan teliti beberapa hal yang bisa kita tunda agar kita bisa fokus pada tugas yang benar-benar penting saat ini.

Bugarkan diri kita. Saat kita merasa fit dan bugar, kita akan bisa menyelesaikan semua yang ada dipangkuan kita pada hari ini juga. Itu artinya, kita harus rutin berolahraga dan menjaga pola makan agar tetap sehat.

Sederhanakan langkah kita. Diskusikan tugas atau langkah kita sebelumnya dengan rekan-rekan atau anggota keluarga terdekat. Mungkin ada ide dari mereka yang bisa menyederhanakan langkah kita. Ini akan membuat kita bisa menghemat waktu serta tenaga.

Silahkan mencoba.. saya sudah lakukan dan hasilnya wow..

Satu hari bersama anak-anak Yayasan Griya Asih (18 Agustus 2007)

2007-08-26T09:58:00.000-07:00

Tanggal 18 Agustus 2007 di Citeko, Cirasua, saya menghabiskan waktu saya bersama-sama dengan 47 anak-anak dari Yayasan Griya Asih. Yayasan yang menampung anak-anak terlantar, anak-anak jalanan, anak-anak kurang mampu atau anak-anak 'broken home'.

Bermain sambil belajar adalah tujuan saya. Saya mengajarkan kepada mereka, apa sih yang disebut kreativitas, bagaimana berpikir secara kreatif, dan bagaimana mereka mengali potensi diri, serta apa saja yang perlu dikembangkan. Anak-anak sangat antusias mendengar dan mencoba apa yang disebut affirmasi dengan cara menulis.

Kemudian, kami makan bersama, nyanyi bersama dan main musik bersama dengan diiringi band GA yang dimainkan oleh anak-anak, sungguh mengasyikan. Jam 11an, Micky AFI dan Marketing Communication dari Choice Management Consultants, Rey, datang bergabung dan anak-anak mendaulat Micky untuk bernyanyi bersama... melihat kegembiraan anak-anak, saya tidak ingin pulang.

Seorang anak umur 10 tahun, Novi, datang ke saya dan peluk saya, dia minta difoto bersama dan dia bilang dia kangen banget sama saya. Erna datang kesaya hanya ingin sampaikan bahwa dia tidak nakal lagi.. Oooo, terharu banget.

Pada saat saya minta mereka melakukan penilaian atas diri mereka, apakah mereka telah berbuat baik dan apakah mereka membuat hal yang kurang baik. Novi datang kesana dengan jujur ... dia menulis saya kentut dan itu adalah hal yang kurang baik menurut dia.... jujur, polos, dan rindu akan cinta tercermin di diri mereka semua...

Memang saya sudah k.l. 4 bulan tidak mengunjungi mereka di yayasan karena kesibukan saya keluar kota. Walaupun demikian, anak-anak mengirim surat kesana yang dikumpul melalui kakak pembina mereka. beberapa sudah saya baca dan saya hanya bisa mengelus dada dan menangis. Mereka merindukan kasih sayang dari orang tua. Memang sejak pertama kali saya mengunjungi Yayasan Griya Asih di tahun 2006, saya telah jatuh cinta kepada anak-anak disana. Tetapi, saya tidak bisa berbuat banyak selain mengajak mereka sharing, bermain, makan bersama dan rekreasi/outing bersama.

Anak-anak, saya berjanji saya akan lakukan sesuatu buat kalian...

Sudahkah Anda Sarapan Pagi Setiap Hari ?

2007-08-26T09:43:00.000-07:00

Kata Sunway Medical Center, Malaysia yang disadur oleh Family's Doctor magazine, sarapan pagi adalah waktu makan yang paling penting sepanjang hari, tidak perduli apakah kita seorang pelajar, pekerja, atlit, seorang ibu atau pensiunan. Dengan sarapan pagi, kita mendapatkan banyak manfaat kesehatan mulai dari energi yang baru di pagi hari sampai dengan manfaat kesehatan jangka panjang seperti menurunkan berat badan dan mencegah terjadinya diabetes tipe 2.

Ada 5(lima) alasan utama kenapa sarapan pagi baik untuk kita dan keluarga:

Meningkatkan Metabolisme. Metabolisme identik dengan kemampuan tubuh kita membakar energi. Orang yang sarapan pagi memiliki metabolisme yang lebih tinggi. Misalnya, jika akan tidak sarapan pagi dan langsung makan siang, metabolisme kita menurun sebesar 5%. Penelitian menunjukkan, orang yang sarapan pagi secara terartur memiliki berat tubuh yang lebih rendah dibandingkan mereka yang tidak sarapan. Dengan demikian, sarapan pagi membantu kita mengendalikan berat tubuh. Tapi, bukan berarti kita bisa seenaknya makan apa saja di pagi hari. Kita harus tetap hati-hati dengan makan secukupnya dan memilih jenis makanan yang sehat dan rendah lemak.
Meningkatkan konsentrasi. Merasa lelah dan sulit konsentrasi di pagi hari ? mungkin terdengar 'familiar' bagi kita, jika kita sering melewatkan sarapan pagi. Sesungguhnya dengan sarapan pagi dapat membantu kita memperbarui energi di pagi hari dan membantu kita memiliki 'mood' yang baik. Penelitian menunjukkan bahwa orang dewasa yang selalu sarapan pagi memiliki prestasi yang lebih baik di pekerjaan. Anak-anak yang dibiasakan sarapan pagi juga biasanya memiliki IQ yang leibh tinggi di sekolah.
Memperlancar gula darah. Adalah wajar jika gula darah kita turun di pagi hari setelah tidur semalaman. Sehingga, sebenarnya sangat baik untuk 'membangunkan' gula dara di pagi hari dengan sarapan pagi yang sehat, khususnya yang tinggi karbohidrat dan rendah lemak (misalnya, bubur atau misop).
Pembuangan yang teratur. Jika kita sarapan pagi, sudah dipastikan kita juga mengkonsumsi serat yang leibh tinggi dibandingkan mereka yang tidak sarapan pagi. Serat sangat penting, karena membantu pencernaan kita leibh lancar, sehingga BAB (buang air besar) kita lebih lancar.
Membiasakan anak makan teratur. Anak-anak belajar dari orang tuanya. Jadi, sarapan pagi dengan anak akan memberikan peluang bagi kita menjadi contoh yang baik pada anak-anak kita. Mudah-mudahan anak-anak kita akan membawa kebiasaan baik ini sampai usia dewasanya.

Jadi, jangan lupa sarapan pagi teman................ /cp

ARTICLE ...

2007-08-25T03:54:00.000-07:00

SEL KANKER HIDUP DENGAN:

a. Gula adalah umpan kanker. Dengan mengurangi gula, berarti juga mengurangi suplai makanan penting bagi sel kanker. Pengganti gula seperti NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, dll dibuat dengan aspartam dan itu berbahaya. Pengganti alami yang lebih baik dapat berupa madu atau tetes tebu tetapi dalam jumlah yang amat sedikit. Garam meja mempunyai tambahan kimia untuk membuat warnanya putih. Alternatif yang lebih baik adalah dengan garam laut.

b. Susu membuat tubuh memproduksi mucus, terutama di organ bagian dalam. Kanker diumpan oleh mucus. Dengan mengurangi susu dan menggantikan dengan susu kedelai tawar sel kanker akan kelaparan.

Sel kanker tumbuh dengan subur di lingkungan asam. Diet anti daging adalah bersifat asam, yang terbaik adalah memakan ikan dan ayam daripada daging sapi atau babi. Daging juga mengandung antibiotik ternak yang menumbuhkan hormon dan parasit yang berbahaya, terutama bagi penderita kanker.

Diet dengan 80% sayur dan buah segar, biji-bijian dan kacang-kacangan membantu tubuh dalam lingkungan alkalin. 20%nya bisa diperoleh dari makanan matang termasuk kacang. Sayur segar menyediakan enzim hidup yang mudah diserap dalam 15 menit untuk memelihara dan meningkatkan pertumbuhan sel sehat. Untuk memperoleh enzim hidup untuk membangun sel sehat, cobalah minum jus sayur segar (semua sayuran termasuk kacang2an) dan makan sayuran mentah 2 atau 3 kali sehari. Enzim rusak pada temperature 104 derajat Farenheit atau 40 derajat Celcius.

Hindari kopi, teh, dan coklat yang mempunyai kafein tinggi. Teh hijau adalah alternative terbaik yang mempunyai sel penumpas kanker. Yang terbaik meminum air bersih atau air yang telah disaring untuk menghindari racun dan logam berat dalam air ledeng.

(FORWARDLAH PADA ORANG-ORANG YANG ANDA SAYANGI)

Article

2007-08-21T02:14:00.000-07:00

The New Mental Diet
By: Brian Tracy

One of the most powerful personal programming activities you can engage in is positive self-talk. Be your own cheerleader and talk to yourself positively all of the time.

Think About Your Dreams

As it happens, the average person talks to himself in a negative way. As much as 94 percent of your inner dialogue tends to be about the things you fear, your worries, the people you're angry at, your problems, your concerns and so on. You have to consciously keep your words, your inner dialogue, consistent with what you wish to accomplish.

The Most Powerful Antidote

Psychologists have proven that the words, "I can do it," are the antidote to the fear of failure that often holds you back from trying. Repeat these words over and over to yourself whenever you feel fearful or doubtful about anything that you want to attempt. Say very enthusiastically to yourself, "I can do it, I can do it, I can do it!" When you start saying, "I can do it, I can do it," you drive that message deep into your subconscious mind. This message lowers your fears and builds your self-confidence.

Make A Million!

Another thing you can say to yourself is, "I make a million. I make a million." Impress that message into your subconscious mind. Whenever you think about your work, say over and over again, "I'm the best, I'm the best, I'm the best." Making any one of these three statements, or anything that is positive makes you feel good about yourself and causes you to be more motivated. You become more focused, more determined. Wealthy, successful people have a continuous inner dialogue that is positive and constructive and uplifting and consistent with their goals and objectives.

Feed Your Mind Continually

Feed your mind from morning to night with words, pictures, information and ideas consistent with your goals for financial success. Develop the habit of thinking positively and confidently about wealth accumulation. Read stories, books and articles about other successful people. Think about how you could be like them. Visualize yourself, imagine, fantasize, pretend in your mind that you are like the kind of people that you admire and respect and want to be like.

Select A Role Model

Psychologists have proven that role models are essential for magnetizing your mind with the qualities and characteristics that you wish to develop in yourself. Pick a person that you admire. Whenever you face any kind of difficult situation, ask yourself, how would this person act in this situation? What would this person do? How would this person behave? You'll find that when you think about how someone you admire might behave, your own thinking becomes better and you tend to act at your very best.

Become An Expert

Read everything you can find about your business. Become an expert in your field. The more you learn about your profession, your trade and your craft, the more confident you will become that you can do well in it.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do to put yourself on the new mental diet for financial success:

First, repeat to yourself, over and over again, the wonderful words "I can do it! I can do it! I can do it!" Whenever you are anticipating any new goal or opportunity. This affirmation builds your self-confidence and conditions you for success.

Second, monitor your mental diet the way you would your physical diet. Be sure that you feed yourself throughout the day with positive stories, words, pictures and conversations about the things you want to have in your life. Refuse to read, watch, listen to or discuss things that are negative or depressing. This will make a tremendous difference in how you feel and how you act.

Article

2007-08-21T02:00:00.000-07:00

THE POWER OF THE TONGUE
by Chris Widener

There is an old proverb with a lot of wisdom. It says, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and whoever loves it will eat its fruit."It is so true. What we say has the ability to create situations, emotions, and thoughts in others. A kind word helps people, negative words hurt - sometimes for a very long time. But here I want to talk about this concept in relation to ourselves. How does what we say affect us? Tremendously. There is a simple principle here.

Only say things that will create in you positive emotions, thoughts, feelings, and ultimately, actions.Let me give you a good example. We do not allow the words "I can't" in our house. Why? Because we CAN! The very minimum is "I'll try." We ask our kids to say "I'll try." If we allow our kids, or ourselves, to fall into the trap of saying "I can't," guess what? We won't! And that's not good, is it?Do you tell yourself negative thoughts during the day? Most of us can fall into that temptation, can't we? I was working the other day and I was brewing over something bad that had happened and I was just getting bent out of shape. So I stopped, realized I had the power to choose what I was saying to myself and began to think about and tell myself good things. And my day changed for the better.Have you ever been in your backswing on the golf course and said to yourself, "I am going to shank this one." What happens? You shank it. This actually happens to me. So what do I do? I stop my backswing, reset myself, and tell myself I am going to hit it straight down the fairway. What happens? About half the time I hit it straight, the other half, I shank it, but increasing your ability is a future article! At the very least I increase my chances of performing better. Bad thoughts almost guarantee my failure, while good thoughts increase my chances for success dramatically.

A salesman may see someone walk through his door and say to himself, "I'm not going to be able to make this sale." I can't. I won't.Some of us aren't even aware that we talk negatively to ourselves. Take some time today to think about what you say to yourself. Maybe ask a close friend if you have this habit. If you find yourself doing this, it is time to change!Now, don't get me wrong. Self-talk is not a substitute for effort and ability, but it is a strong helping factor. Find some simple phrases that will help you get through the day with more success. Whatever your situation or work is, I am sure there are specific things you can say that will build you up and stick you on the road to success!The words that you use and the conversations you have with yourself create things in you. They can create positive things or negative things. It is our choice.

The tongue has the power of life and death. This is why it is so important to be diligent in using the power of the tongue to create a positive force in our lives.

Remember, your tongue has power. Use it!

Anjing ... Binatang kesayangan ku

2007-08-17T11:30:00.001-07:00

Saya senang banget bermain dengan anjing... Saya ingat waktu saya masih tinggal di Manado, keluarga kami mempunyai anjing yang banyak.. semua anggota keluarga sangat menyukai anjing... awalnya hanya 1 ekor German Shepherd (namanya Nero), kemudian teman papa memberikan anjing kecil (Pekinnese) buat adik perempuan saya (namanya Topsie), papa membeli 1 ekor anjing Chow Chow (Hero namanya) yang berusia 3 bulan dari Surabaya (lucu banget seperti anak singa).. tetapi sayang sekali hanya beberapa tahun dirumah kami, Nero harus diberikan ke orang lain karena menjadi galak dan mengigit mama.. Hero mati karena kena racun yang sengaja diberikan orang luar (jahat banget deh.. saya masih ingat, mama memberikan susu panas, dan dia mati dipangkuan mama karena papa sedang keluar kota... kami semua tidak bisa tidur dan sedih banget). Jadi, tersisa hanya anjing-anjing kecil kami, Stevie (anjing kesayangan kakak perempuan saya), Doggie (my lovely doggy), dan Topsie (Topsie adalah induk dari Stevie dan Doggie). Lucu banget karena kami berlomba-lomba mengajarkan anjing kami agar menjadi yang terbaik... Doggie anjing saya itu paling bandel (seperti yang punya kali ya hehehe). Rumah kami terletak di jalan protokol dan didepan sekolah SMA Don Bosco, jadi anjing-anjing kami menjadi korban ledekan anak-anak setiap pulang sekolah..jadi rame banget setiap jam 12an.. tetapi Stevie adalah anjing kesayangan anak-anak SMA .. mereka selalu panggil nama dia .. hehehe. Setelah anak-anak ke Jakarta (kecuali kakak perempuan saya), maka papa dan mama terpaksa pindah juga ke Jakarta, dan semua anjing akhirnya diberikan kepada orang lain (kata mama total anjingnya adalah lebih dari 12 ekor... gila hehe).

Setelah 5 tahun di Jakarta, teman saya memberikan 1 ekor anjing kampung basteran ke saya, Bronny namanya .. dia sangat setia ama saya. Sayang kakak lelaki saya tidak suka anjing. Dan karena saya tinggal bersama-sama dengan beliau, dan karena kakak ipar saya melahirkan anak pertama, maka terpaksa Bronny saya berikan kepada orang lain (sedih banget deh).

Tetapi, menurut saya cinta tidak harus memiliki. Begitu juga kecintaan saya ama anjing tidak perlu harus saya pelihara. Saya punya teman yang mempunyai bisnis jual beli anjing stambum.. jadi saya rajin ke rumah mereka hanya untuk bermain ama anjing-anjing mereka. Saya berpikir kenapa tidak punya toko anjing saja? mm.. pasti senang bisa main seharian... akhirnya tercapai juga. setahun yang lalu saya membuka 1 buah toko anjing di Gajah Mada.. Saat ini saya senang banget ama Golden Retriever dan Collies (dirumah teman saya itu ada sepasang Collies yang cakep banget) tetapi ke-2 anjing tersebut adalah anjing mahal.. ngak mampu deh beli... jadi cukup koleksi foto2 mereka aja.... /cp

Rekomendasi Musik : MUSIC FOR DE-STRESS AND RELAXATION

2007-08-17T10:38:00.001-07:00

Saya pernah baca di salah satu majalah tentang musik dapat membuat kita rileks, mengistirahatkan sejenak tubuh dan otak kita dari semua aktivitas bekerja. Katanya Music for De-Stress & Relaxation sepertinya bagus dan adalah pilihan yang tepat untuk kita yang sibuk. Saya coba mencari CD musik tersebut di toko kaset suatu mall dekat rumah kemarin. Saya mulai mencoba... sambil tidur-tiduran di pagi hari (anda juga bisa sambil duduk santai di rumah), saya ditemani lantunan musik dari album tersebut. Album yang berisi lagu-lagu instrumental ternyata dapat memberikan energi positif pada mood dan emosi saya. Ketenangan yang dialirkan dari alunan musiknya dapat membantu menghilangkan penat dan lelah akibat bekerja selama 2 bulan terakir.. Benar-benar jitu !! Silahkan coba.................. /cp

Management Tip

2007-08-17T09:55:00.001-07:00

WHEN THERE'S A FREELOADER ON YOUR TEAM
By Rodd Wagner and James k. Harter (Harvard Monday Morning News Service)

Setiap manajer sering kali memiliki seorang pemalas dalam timnya - baik ia mengetahui maupun tidak. Adalah sangat mempengaruhi semangat tim bila ada seorang rekan mengambil keuntungan dari karyawan lain yang bekerja lebih keras.

Bila ada seorang dalam tim anda yang malas, anda harus segera mengatasi masalah ini. Penelitian Gallup selama lebih dari 10 tahun di 114 negara untuk menciptakan kerangka dan memperbaiki efek pemalas terhadap motivasi dan produktivitas tim dapat anda gunakan.

Ada 3 hal yang harus dibangun saat meningkatkan kontribusi individual dalam usaha tim:

1. Kebanyakan orang ingin bekerja sama. Kebanyakan orang yang memulai pekerjaan baru sangat siap untuk bekerjasama dengan rekan-rekannya, dan mereka akan terus bekerjasama bila mereka mengetahui bahwa kerjasama diharuskan.

2. Tanpa pertanggungjawaban akan terjadi kemunduran. Di semua tempat kerja, beberapa karyawan akan bermalas-malasan bila mereka tahu tidak akan ditanyai bila mengalami kemunduran. Dan bila rekan-rekan mereka menyadari hal tersebut, mereka akan tergoda untuk bermalas-malasan juga.

3. Ada orang yang akan berusaha menegakkan keadilan - dengan cara merugikan diri sendiri. Beberapa karyawan akan mengabaikan pekerjaan sebagai cara mereka untuk menghukum rekan kerja yang bermalas-malasan.

Apa yang dapat anda lakukan sebagai seorang manajer? Beberapa kebijakan dan prosedur tempat kerja menyebabkan usaha karyawan tertentu lebih sedikit daripada karyawan lain. Cari dan hapus itu.

Para karyawan dapat mengidentifikasi masalah yang tidak dilihat oleh manajer. Para manajer tidak selalu bisa melihat dengan jelas karyawan mana yang malas dan karyawan mana yang kehilangan minat untuk bekerja keras, karena ada pemalas ditengah-tengah mereka. Untuk menunjukkan kemunduran kinerja, anda dapat mengambil tindakan seperti yang dilakukan Nancy Sorells saat ditunjuk sebagai manajer di Hotel Mariott Dallas yang sedang mengalami kemunduran. Ia bertanya pada para karyawan, "Siapa karyawan terburuk di hotel ini, dan berapa lama ia sudah bekerja di sini?".

Tentu saja, informasi yang diperoleh dengan cara seperti ini harus ditangani dengan sensitif. Misalnya, mungkin ada orang yang tidak menyukai karyawan tertentu dan menyebut nama orang tersebut. Tetapi, bila nama yang sama terus bermunculan dari banyak mulut, maka itu adalah sinyal untuk mengamati orang tersebut lebih dekat dan bagaimana kinerjanya mempengaruhi rekan kerjanya.

Bila anda melihat karyawan baru sering mencari karyawan tertentu untuk meminta saran, anda telah mengidentifikasi motivator alami dalam tim anda. Kerahkan seluruh kemampuannya; tingkatkan tanggung jawabnya, dan berikan pelatihan yang akan meningkatkan pengetahuan dan pengaruhnya. Sering bertemu dengan orang tersebut untuk memperoleh pandangan tentang perusahaan - ia mungkin mengetahui masalah kinerja yang mungkin belum anda ketahui. /cp

Quote

2007-08-17T08:25:00.000-07:00

"Tidak ada wanita yang jelek, hanya ada wanita yang tidak memperhatikan atau tidak percaya kalau mereka sesungguhnya menarik"

-- Estee Lauder

JUST SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE !! - Part 3

2007-08-17T08:15:00.000-07:00

4. Ingat momen kapan kita merasa sangat bahagia?

Kebanyakan kita, khususnya yang berusia 35 tahun ke atas (seperti saya hehe) dapat mengingat kapan kita sungguh-sungguh merasa bahagia. Dan kalau pertanyaan itu menjadi lebih detail lagi, ternyata kita merasa bahagia pada momen dimana kita merasa bebas, tidak terlalu banyak tanggung jawab dan bisa menjadi diri kita sendiri.

Sebagian dari kita akan mengatakan bahwa ketika masih kuliah atau SMA atau ketika masih single dan belum menikah dengan pasangan yang kemudian dinikahi, adalah momen yang paling berbahagia. Atau ketika kita baru menikah, belum punya anak, banyak mengingatnya sebagai momen yang berbahagia. Memang mungkin belum punya rumah sendiri, masih kontrak, masih cicil motor atau mobil, belum banyak perabotan rumah dan sebagainya.

Intinya, momen yang paling berbahagia adalah ketika kita tidak perlu memikirkan berbagai tuntutan dan tanggung jawab khususnya yang berhubungan dengan materi dan juga tuntutan sosial.

Kesimpulan:

4 hal di atas hanya sedikit dari banyak cara lain untuk menyederhanakan kehidupan kita sehingga akhirnya kita dapat menikmati hidup itu sendiri.
Dan ke-4 langkah di atas hanya saran saja, karean kitalah sesungguhnya yang akan memilih cara terbaik untuk lebih menyederhanakan hidup kita.
Jangan membuat hidup kita bahkan menjadi lebih rumit dalam perjalanan kita menyederhanakan hidup kita.

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JUST SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE !! - Part 2

2007-08-12T09:05:00.000-07:00

Di bawah ini ada beberapa pertanyaan yang akan membantu kita untuk mengevaluasi lagi apakah kehidupan kita memang sangat sibuk sehingga sesungguhnya kita tidak punya banyak waktu berkalitas untuk keluarga dan orang yang kita cintai. Dan yang lebih parah lagi, kita tidak punya waktu untuk kita sendiri.

1. Apakah arti "Hidup yang lebih sederhana" bagi kita?

Apakah artinya meninggalkan semua milik kita di kota tempat kita selama ini hidup dan bekerja, dan memilih tinggal di desa bersama seluruh keluarga? atau memilih tinggal di rumah dan tidak bekerja di kantor sama sekali? atau memilih untuk bekerja tepat pada waktunya hany a 8 jam sehari, dan tidak lebih semenitpun?

Sebelum kita memutuskan itu semua, coba tuliskan terlebih dahulu apa harapan kita dengan hidup lebih sederhana? apa yang menurut kita akan terjadi pada kita kalau kita hidup leibh sederhana?

Dalam kondisi ini, pastikan kita tidak meminta pendapat orang lain tentang konsep hidup lebih sederhana karena setiap orang memiliki cara berpikir yang berbeda

2. Daftarkan hal-hal dalam kehidupan kita yang menurut kita membuat kehidupan ini tidak sederhana sama sekali

Banyak hal dalam kehidupan kita yang membuat kita sangat sibuk dan melupakan hal-hal yang leibh penting. misalnya, karena kita ingin punya rumah yang leibh besar, mobil ternama, terpaksa kita bekerja lebih keras untuk membayar cicilan. Pemilikan kartu kredit yang banyak juga membuat hidup sangat tidak sederhana.

Bekerja di 2 tempat untuk menambah penghasilan. Jarak rumah yang jauh dengan kantor. Kemacetan lalu lintas. Bos yang galak. Anak buah yang tidak kompeten. Klien yang terlalu menuntut. Rapat yang tidak pernah habisnya. Pekerjaan yang sebenarnya tidak terlalu kita sukai. Puluhan email yang setiap harinya harus dibalas. SMS salah kirim dst.. dst...

Barang-barang yang dibeli tapi tidak pernah dipakai. Peralatan olahraga yang baru dipakai sekali dan sekarang menumpuk debu di sudut kamar. Botol-botol obat yang sudah kadaluarsa. Setumpuk pakaian yang sudah tidak muat lagi. Mobil yang sangat boros bensin dan leibh sering di bengkel daripada digunakan.. dst.. dst...

Banyak lagi.. kita daftarin saja daftar kita....

3. Apa saja yang dapat kita singkirkan?

Tentu saja tidak semua. Kita tidak dapat menyingkirkan suami yang bawel atau istri yang tidak rapi (walah walah hehe).. atau menyingkirkan anak yang bandel (sadir deh hehe). Juga belum tentu bisa berhenti dari pekerjaan karena kita masih membutuhkan penghasilan untuk membayar kebutuhan dan cicilan hutang.

Tetapi, pasti ada yang bisa kita singkirkan ... kurangi... buang .. atau bakahkan berikan pada orang lain yang leibh membutuhkan.

Menyalamni hidup yang leibh sederhana sesungguhnya memang lebih kepada belajar memilih mana yang penting dan mana yang hanya bersifat urgent dan tidak terlalu penting.

Misalnya, singkirkan pakaian lama kita dengan cara memberikan kepada yayasan sosial jika masih layak pakai. Jual mobil tua kita yang mungkin pernah jadi mobil kesayangan tetapi sekarang menjadi pemikiran yang membuat stres, dan jangan pikirkan berapa profit yang akan kita dapatkan. Pikirkan ketenangan pikiran kita tanpa harus tiap bulan membayar jasa bengkel.

Katakan pada para ketua beberapa organisasi sosial yang kita ikuti bahwa kita memilih untuk fokus p;ada salah satu organisasi saja. Kurangi jumlah arisan yang kita ikuti atau lakukan golf untuk kepentingan olahraga dan bukan melulu bisnis.

Hidup memang sangat sederhana dan menyenangkan jika kita tidak memikirkan cicilan kartu kredit, KPR dan cicilan mobil mewah kita

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BELIEVE IT OR NOT : Malam hari dengan 2 bulan!!!

2007-08-10T09:36:00.000-07:00

Sore tadi saya membaca 1 email di milist TCI.. bunyinya seperti ini:

"Malam hari dengan 2 buah bulan. Jangan sampai terlewatkan kesempatanlangka yang hanya terjadi dalam 2280 tahun sekali saja!!!

Seluruh dunia menantikan planet Bumi kita mempunyai 2 buah bulan pada 27Agustus 2007 nanti.Planet Mars akan terlihat sangat terang di langit mulai awal Agustus.Planet Mars akan terlihat sebesar bulan planet Bumi kita dengan matatelanjang saja. Dan puncaknya akan terlihat seperti bulan purnama(full moon) pada tanggal 27 Agustus jam 00.30 malam senin pagi dinihari, saat jarak Mars dengan Bumi kita hanya sekitar 34.65M miles.Jangan sampai terlewatkan untuk 'menatap' langit yang akan sepertimemiliki 2 buah bulan, karena jarak terdekat seperti itu hanya akanterjadi lagi di tahun 2287 yang akan datang.

Share this with your friends as NO ONE ALIVE TODAY will ever see it again"

Terserah mau percaya atau tidak.. tapi kalau penasaran mau lihat juga kan ngak apa2 .......

JUST SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE !! - Part 1

2007-08-10T08:44:00.000-07:00

Apakah kita pernah dalam posisi seperti ilustrasi seperti ini? Pagi hari sebelum kita benar-benar bangun, setengah bermimpi kita sudah membayangkan apa yang akan kita lakukan hari ini... mungkin saja mempersiapkan anak untuk sekolah, memberikan daftar belanja pada asisten di rumah, memilih kejema dan dasi untuk suami tercinta, mengecek TO DO LIST kita di kantor, menelepon salah satu orang tua murid (teman anak kita) untuk memastikan kapan sebenarnya jadwal outing kita minggu depan misalnya... dan seterusnya dan seterusnya.

Di meja makan, kita sibuk mengingatkan anak-anak untuk menghabiskan susu mereka, mengingatkan suami bahwa Sabtu depan ada arisan keluarga dan sebaiknya jadwal golf diganti jadi hari Minggu pagi aja... kita juga minta ijin pulang telat malam ini karena harus mengejar target menyiapkan presentasi besar untuk klien Senin depan, dan seterusnya dan seterusnya.

Dan ketika anak-anak kita sudah masuk mobil, suami sudah berangkat, kita masih memeriksa lagi tas kerja kita dan menemukan bahwa kancing blus kita putus, dan kita harus mengganti blus padahal kita hanya punya waktu 5 menit lagi untuk berangkat sebelum kita ketinggalan jemputan tebengan teman kantor yang rumahnya satu kompleks dengan kita. Dan sementara kita masih mikir-mikir eh... suami menelepon minta dicarikan 1 folder file yang tertinggal di atas meja yang sangat dibutuhkan pagi ini untuk rapat.. dia menunggu di luar kompleks rumah.. huh...

Dalam kondisi seperti itu, apakah kita hanya menarik nafas sembari angkat bahu .. atau.. kita menjadi panik sekali karena tidak mungkin kita bisa menyelesaikan semuanya dalam waktu 5 menit. Jawabannya bisa saja... JUST SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE.... SIMPLIFY ME... SIMPLIFY YOURS...

Hal yang sama sesungguhnya dialami hampir semua orang, baik pria maupun wanita - meskipun wanita sepertinya menghadapi jadwal hidup yang sungguh menyibukkan, apalagi jika berperan dalam banyak hal - seorang ibu, istri dan juga profesional.

Tidak mudah memang untuk menyederhanakan itu semua. Tetapi, seorang pakar di bidang Manajemen Waktu dan Hidup, yang telah menulis buku tentang "Menyederhanakan Hidup" dan telah terjual jutaan eksemplar/copy, Elaine St. James mengatakan bahwa "menyederhanakan hidup" sesungguhnya sangat mudah. Kita hanya perlu menyederhanakan cara berpikir kita.

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KOPI - Menambah Kemampuan Mengingat

2007-08-10T08:34:00.000-07:00

Tau ngak kalau Kopi bisa menambah kemampuan mengingat ?

Saya baca di suatu majalah bahwa minum kopi ternyata tidak hanya membuat kita lebih awas, tetapi juga dapat melindungi ingatan kita.. Katanya peneliti dari Universitas Arizona menemukan bahwa dengan minum kopi di siang hari akan membantu mencegah penurunan ingatan jangka panjang yang dialami banyak orang pada jam-jam tersebut. Lho koq bisa?

Tapi jika kita bukan penggemar kopi (seperti saya), kita dapat menghindar efek samping dari minum kopi seperti perasaan gemetar, pusing dan lapar dengan minum teh, karena teh mengandung caffeine yang lebih ringan.

Jadi ... ngopi yuk !!

Gempa di Indramayu, Jawa Barat !!!

2007-08-08T11:01:00.000-07:00

Pukul 00.00 saya sedang asyik mengetik tiba-tiba badan terasa goyang dan sedikit pusing.. saya memanggil mama dan kakak saya yang sedang tidur nyenyak, tetapi mereka tetap tidur (mungkin enak digoyan-goyang hehehe).. saya keluar kamar dan melihat air di dispenser bergoyang dan saya yakin kalau memang gempa.. gentarannya cukup membuat pusing dan sedikit mual.. setelah menunggu beberapa menit, berita tentang gempa ini muncul di Detik.com (pukul 00.12).. ternyata gempa terjadi di Indramayu, Jawa Barat. Menurut BMG, gempa 7 SR tersebut terjadi di 6.17 LS dan 107.66 BT dengan kedalaman 286 km dari permukaan laut, dan getarannya sampai di Yogyakarta. Tetapi, menurut berita di TV yang saya dengar, tidak terindikasi akan terjadinya tsunami.. mari kita berdoa semoga tidak terdapat korban dan tidak ada hal-hal buruk lagi di negara ini .......

Training Lesson : Get Excited About Unhappy Customers

2007-08-08T09:53:00.000-07:00

TRAINING LESSON:
GET EXCITED ABOUT UNHAPPY CUSTOMERS
by Zig Ziglar

Nobody likes to deal with unhappy, disgruntled, complaining customers. However, statistics suggest that when customers complain, business owners and managers ought to get excited about it. The complaining customer represents a huge opportunity for more business.

Consider this: For every customer who lodges a complaint, there are 24 MORE customers who have had similar unhappy experiences, but they did not complain! At least they didn't complain to the business owner or even an employee of the business.

How many of you have had a bad experience at a business? And how many of you complained about that bad experience to someone who could do something about it? Chances are you didn't. However, you did tell someone about your unhappy experience. You told your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors. In fact, you told everyone except someone who could do something about it! In your business, your unhappy customers (and don't kid yourself, everyone has unhappy customers) will complain to SOMEONE, but probably not to YOU.

Consequently, when a customer DOES complain to you, get excited about it. This is an opportunity for you to handle the situation professionally and re-earn that customer's loyalty. Fix the problem (if you can) and enjoy making future sales to that customer.

How do you know when customers are dissatisfied? When they complain! However, since most unhappy customers won't complain (to you), you need to ask them if they're satisfied with your product or service, or your business overall. Most businesses do not make it easy or convenient for angry customers to complain. That's because the businesses doesn't want to invite confrontations. Get over it! Invite your customers to give you feedback, even if it's negative. Ask them to grade you on your performance. Give them the opportunity to provide comments in writing, or via voice mail.

Here's a simple idea. Create a Report Card for your business and ask your customers to give you letter grades for quality, courtesy, timeliness, reliability, etc. Give the Report Card to every customer. Don't wait for them to pick up a copy, give it to them. If you can't give it to every customer, give it to 30 or so customers every week, randomly. Be pro-active. Ask your customers to help you improve your business by grading you and providing their comments.

Welcome the complaining customer! If you do, you can reduce the overall number of complaints and the negative impact that occurs when dissatisfied customers complain to everyone but you.

Tertawa Itu Sehat, Bahkan Berpikir Untuk Ketawa Juga Sehat

2007-08-07T10:35:00.000-07:00

Bahwa tertawa itu sehat, sudah pasti anda tahu. Tetapi tahukah anda bahwa ketika anda berpikir akan tertawa pun, anda sudah membantu mengembangkan imunitas tubuh anda ?

Seorang ahli dari Loma Linda University melakukan penelitian terhadap beberapa orang yang tengah bersiap-siap untuk menonton video atau film yang lucu akan mengalami peningkatan beta endorfin sampai 27% dan hormon pertumbuhan tubuhnya juga bergerak sampai 87% dibandingkan mereka yang tidak. Unsur kimiawi ini bermanfaat untuk mengurangi tekanan darah anda.

Jadi bersiap-siaplah untuk tertawa, sebelum tertawa itu dilarang ..... (kata Warkop juga).

Terapi Tawa

2007-08-07T10:13:00.000-07:00

Tertawa adalah obat alami bagi tubuh.

Tawa memperkuat daya tahan tubuh, melepaskan ketegangan pada tubuh dengan menurunkan level hormon stres, kortisol, dan adrenalin. Tawa juga mampu mengurangi rasa sakit dengan meningkatkan aliran endorphin.

Tertawa juga baik bagi jantung anda. Penelitian dari Stanford University di California menemukan bahwa tertawa terpingkal-pingkal, tawa dari perut, selama 20 detik dapat memperkuat jantung sama halnya dengan melakukan olahraga dayung selama 3 menit.
Penelitian lain dari Universitas Maryland juga mengatakan bahwa tertawa dapat mencegah penyakit jantung. Penelitian terseubt menyebutkan bahwa para penderita jantung sulit tersenyum dan tertawa dalam kondisi yang sama yang dialami oleh orang yang tidak menderita penyakit jantung. Artinya, jangan terlalu tegang dan harus bisa melihat segi lucu dari berbagai kondisi.

Juga disampaikan bahwa penderita penyakit jantung yang menonton video yang lucu pada saat penyembuhan mereka besar kemungkinan tidak akan mengalami serangan kedua.

So, perkenalkan lebih banyak suasana lucu dalam kehidupan anda dengan menonton film komedi atau mungkin terlibat banyak pengalaman lucu. Dan jika semuanya gagal, berpura-puralah.

Para peneliti juga percaya bahwa senyum dan tawa palsu juga memberikan efek psikologi yang sama seperti halnya senyum dan tawa yang asli.

Tertawalah, sebelum tertawa itu dilarang ..................... (kata Warkop).

Dreaming Together....

2007-08-07T09:32:00.000-07:00

Dreaming together and working towards making those dreams reality is a tremendous safeguard against relationship discord.

Why? Because it keeps you focused and your energy directed towards mutual interests instead of finding yourselves in separate camps warring against each other.

--by Margrit Harris

Oh Bali ... Oh Riau ....

2007-08-07T08:45:00.001-07:00

Berlibur ke Bali ? berlibur ke Riau ? ngak ada tuh di rencana saya untuk tahun 2007... tidak terpikirkan sama sekali karena masih banyak yang harus saya lakukan di Jakarta untuk tahun 2007....

Tapi, siapa sangkah kalau hanya melalui affirmasi yang sederhana, saya mendapatkan apa yang tidak saya rencanakan di tahun ini.

Choice Management Consultants meminta saya untuk cuap-cuap di Bali selama 3 hari, dan hampir bersamaan waktunya, saya juga diundang oleh salah satu training provider untuk cuap-cuap juga di Bali 2 hari - tepatnya hanya berbeda 2 hari kerja (+ Sabtu dan Minggu) setelah Choice Management Consultants... artinya selama 2 minggu saya bolak balik Jakarta-Bali-Jakarta.

Kemudian hanya berselang 3 minggu, saya mendapat lagi 2 kontrak pelatihan ke luar kota melalui provider training yang lain, kali ini ke Pekanbaru, Riau - tepatnya di Rumbai untuk bulan Agustus dan September. Artinya saya harus bolak balik lagi Jakarta-Riau-Jakarta.

Sementara kerjaan di Jakarta harus terus berlanjut.... tetap jadi tukang cuap-cuap.
Sungguh pekerjaan yang cape tapi sangat menyenangkan !! Coba deh !!

Awalnya ........

2007-08-07T08:37:00.000-07:00

Hanya dengan bermodal coba-coba akhirnya saya dapat membuat blog saya yang pertama.. Awalnya ingin membuat sebuah wadah untuk menuangkan informasi, ide yang saya dapat - dari teman, dari buku, dari majalah dll - agar dapat dibaca oleh orang lain...

Masih banyak kekurangan, tetapi apabila saya tidak memulainya, kapan lagi.... itung-itung sebagai tempat penyalur minat baru - menulis.......